The holiday season is magical, isn’t it? Twinkling lights, warm gatherings, and the scent of cinnamon wafting through the air—it’s the time of year that feels like a cozy embrace. But if you’re anything like me, it can also feel overwhelming. The expectations, the to-do lists, the relentless pursuit of making everything perfect—it can leave you drained.
What if this year could be different? What if, instead of getting caught up in the whirlwind, you paused, reflected, and asked yourself the questions that truly matter?
These seven questions are an invitation to slow down and reconnect with yourself, ensuring that this holiday season is as meaningful and empowering as it is joyful. Grab a warm drink, find a quiet corner, and let’s explore them together.
1. What does joy mean to me this holiday season?
Joy looks different for everyone. For some, it’s about laughter-filled family gatherings. For others, it’s curling up with a good book and letting the world fade away. This question encourages you to define what joy means to you—not what society, family, or Pinterest tells you it should look like.
Is it scaling back your commitments so you have more time to savor the season? Or is it saying yes to a spontaneous girls’ night out? Take a moment to write it down or visualize it. Knowing your version of joy helps you stay aligned with what truly matters and avoid unnecessary stress.
2. Am I giving from a place of abundance—or depletion?
The holidays are a time of giving, but let’s be real: giving too much can leave you feeling utterly depleted. Whether it’s your energy, time, or resources, it’s essential to check in with yourself.
Ask: Am I giving because I want to, or because I feel obligated? Am I leaving enough space to replenish my well-being?
It’s okay—necessary, even—to take care of yourself first. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Whether it’s declining an extra holiday party or treating yourself to a spa day, prioritize filling your cup before sharing with others.
3. What traditions do I truly cherish—and which can I let go of?
We often feel bound by traditions, even when they no longer serve us. This is your chance to reflect on what traditions genuinely bring you happiness and which ones have become more of a chore than a joy.
Maybe it’s time to let go of baking five types of cookies if it leaves you stressed and exhausted. Instead, you could create a new tradition, like a movie night with popcorn and hot cocoa. Traditions should evolve as you do. Permit yourself to release the ones that don’t spark joy and embrace ones that feel authentic to where you are in life now.
4. How am I protecting my peace?
Peace is priceless, yet during the holidays, it’s often the first thing we sacrifice. This question is a gentle reminder to prioritize your mental and emotional well-being.
Think about boundaries: Are there people or situations that drain your energy? How can you minimize or avoid them? What practices help you stay grounded?
For me, peace comes in the form of quiet mornings with my journal and a steaming cup of tea. For you, it might be a nightly walk under the stars or saying no to hosting this year. Protecting your peace isn’t selfish—it’s an act of love for yourself and those around you.
5. What am I truly grateful for right now?
Gratitude shifts your perspective from what’s missing to what’s abundant. It’s easy to get caught up in the pressure of making everything perfect, but pausing to appreciate what you already have can be transformative.
What are the small, beautiful moments in your life right now? Is it the way your child’s eyes light up at the sight of the Christmas tree? Or the comfort of your favorite blanket on a chilly evening? Gratitude anchors you in the present and reminds you that joy often comes from the simplest things.
Try writing three things you’re grateful for each morning or evening. This practice can help you find moments of calm amidst the holiday chaos.
6. How am I honoring my needs this season?
The holidays can be all about others—buying gifts, attending events, and making everything magical for everyone else. But your needs matter too.
What do you need to feel balanced and fulfilled this season? Maybe it’s more downtime or a creative outlet like decorating or crafting. Perhaps it’s something as simple as taking a midday nap when you’re tired.
This isn’t about being selfish; it’s about self-preservation. When you honor your needs, you’re showing yourself the same care and compassion you so freely give to others.
7. What do I want to carry into the new year?
The end of the year is a natural time for reflection and renewal. Instead of focusing solely on resolutions, think about the lessons, habits, and joys you want to carry forward.
Ask yourself: What worked well for me this year? What brought me peace, growth, or happiness? How can I bring more of that into the new year?
This question helps you align with your values and set intentions that feel authentic to who you are becoming. Whether it’s embracing a slower pace, deepening your relationships, or focusing on self-care, let this be the season of mindful transitions.
A Holiday Season That Feels Like You
These seven questions are a gift to yourself—an opportunity to step back, reflect, and create a holiday season that feels aligned with your heart and values.
Imagine a season where you prioritize your well-being, savor the moments that matter, and let go of the pressure to be everything to everyone. Doesn’t that sound empowering?
This year, I hope you’ll pause, ask yourself these questions, and give yourself the same love and care you so effortlessly give to others. Because the most beautiful holiday season is the one where you feel seen, heard, and cherished—by yourself.
Now, grab that warm drink, light a candle, and permit yourself to embrace the joy, balance, and peace you truly deserve. You’ve got this, my friend. 💛